I started drinking when I was only 15. Well, most of my best friends later joined me because they also thought it was cool to take a little beer. By the time I was 18, Allie, my name, was well known in our neighborhood for all the wrong reasons. I had become a perennial drunk, a chain smoker, and I could abuse any drug that came my way. In simple term, I was the perfect example of an addict. Everyone, including my parents, condemned me for my condition. I tried many times to stop but my situation only got worse with time.
Road to eternal dependency
One day, some two aged women and a young man approached me in the evening while I was on my way to a local pub. They requested for my time, and being a generous, respectful woman, I agreed to listen to what they had to say. They introduced themselves and stated their intention.
They neither condemned nor lectured me on how I was wasting my life. They told me that no one else but me could make a change in my life. And all I needed to have was self-determination. They gave me their contact details and left me alone. The word ‘self-determination’ changed my life. And I realized that my future was in my hands. My willpower to live a free life was planted on that day.
Later that day, I took my phone to call the three people who had met me earlier, but something stronger that was coming from inside told me to go to them physically. After all, they had come from a local support group office. I trusted my instinct and took a walk to their office, which was just 200 meters away from my home.
The person I found at the office enrolled me for a recovery program that included recovery therapy. I was assigned a peer group that was to help me recover. Contrary to my expectation, their addiction recovery strategy mainly emphasized on the necessity for addicts like me to reinvent their lives on an hour-to-hour and day-to-day basis. In short, they mainly helped me to strengthen my willpower.
What I needed to do
The additional strategy that was prescribed for me required that I do the following:
Resisting the urge
The strategy emphasized a lot on resistance. I was trained on how to resist the urge of smoking, taking alcohol, and any other substance that I was addicted to.
Concentrating my mental energy
I was to strengthen my willpower and then use it to help me concentrate all my mental energies fully on the causes and sources of my troubles. This system resulted in a very favorable outcome because I was able to block all the paths that took me, and could take me back to using the substances I was fighting.
Rebuilding my life
I never focused on what addiction had done to me. Instead of looking at things the way they were, I focused on rebuilding my life afresh, and from the ground going up. This helped me find a motivation I needed to resist all the urges that could possibly send me back to drugs.